Superficiality of the sexes

You all know me. I love a good challenge. I, from time to time, log onto gay.com to chat with local men in the area. Now, when I say "local", that actually means I go to the two chat rooms that are within 50 miles of where I live--one is Kalamazoo, MI, and the other is South Bend, Indiana, as those are my only options. What, no Stevensville room, with our smashing 1,300 resident population?

Anyway, I have my profile set there, and I have used the site on and off for a better part of the last seven years.

A few days ago, I was tempted to try out a theory, just to see how well I really understood men. You see, gay men are only interested in physical attractiveness in order to start a conversation with a man. You could have the smartest, funniest, most intelligent profile in creation, but if you don't look good, you won't ever get a guy to chat with you for the most part.

This is true of me.

I am not a highly attractive guy, and I know this. I'm just an average joe. Therefore, I get almost no instant messages when I log onto the gay chat. No worries though, I browse through profiles and if a guy that sounds like he might be a nice fella has a decent profile filled out, I message him. Only one out of ten of those guys respond, but over the years, I've made about 7 or 8 really good friends online. Back to my theory.

I went to google and just did an image search of "guys". About 25 pages in, I picked a random picture with no name of a normal enough looking dude:



He's not a bad looking fella, and I just picked him at random. I have no idea who this guy is, nor did I even visit the site.

However, after copying this picture and going back to gay.com, I set up a NEW profile, one in which I used HIS picture and made up a fake name with a little bit of basic information, and I went back to my two chat rooms.

Now, the Kalamazoo room had about 50 chatters logged on. The South Bend room had about 40.

Within 20 minutes, I had received 47 instant messages. 47!!

"Hi there, you look good, want to chat?"
"Nice pic bro, you look hot. Want to chat?"
"Wow, you look amazing. You want to hook up?"
"HOT pic dude, you looking for a date?"
"You are SO cute, want to talk for a while?"
"MMMM, you must be new, because I'd remember someone as hot as you."


There were more, with varying degrees of explicitness.

I didn't answer any of the messages, but I just laughed and laughed and laughed.

Gay men are shallow, useless to chat with creatures for the most part.

If I do get instant messages, it's usually from the 60 year old trolls who are looking for a "boy" to use. I even asked a guy one time why he constantly messaged me asking for sex, when he was nearly 50 years old. Now, I'm not really a small minded individual, I will chat with ANYONE, but the sex solicitations get to me, especially from people twice my age. This guys response? He thought I would be desperate for sex because he assumed I didn't get laid much because of how I looked.

Yeah, I don't frequent that site, for obvious reasons.

Anyway, I just thought I'd share that little tale with you all.

Hope all is going well for both my readers here, LOL. I wish I had more to blog about to use this more often.

Oh, and for those of you who know, the answer is NO I am NOT dating anyone, especially one guy inparticular. We have become friends, and he does not know anything more of what I was thinking before. It's going to stay that way too.

Who needs relationships? BAH says me.


SG